Are you struggling in your dating life? Do you need some help to succeed? Don’t worry, we’re here to help with our lessons in love. We have lots of tips and advice to increase your chances of finding ‘the one’, as well as having fun in the process. With over 17 million singles in the UK, romance may be just around the corner.
Read on to find out how your horizons could change, and what steps you can take to date more successfully.
Lessons in love
Knowledge is power and armed with some useful information on what works – and what doesn’t – in the dating arena, you can up your chances of finding Mr or Miss Right.
Lessons In Love is a must-watch for singletons. With 30 minutes of first date tips and tricks preparing you for the journey of love, the CCI Channel team want to help you impress the potential Dani to your Jack.
Eleisha, Slow Dating’s Event Manager helps the presenters, Aiden and Anna, delve into the world of speed dating.
Ever wondered what not to do on the first encounter? Well, in this you can witness Anna go on two live speed dates in the studio.
As well as this, be prepared to cringe, laugh out loud and gasp at some dating confessions the public had kindly sent in! It certainly is not a show to miss.
Lessons to learn about love
If you’re struggling to meet the right person, here are some more lessons you can put into action, to help you find eligible singles.
- Don’t make it the be-all and end-all. Having a relaxed attitude when seeking a mate will actually go in your favour. (Easier said than done we know). Don’t neglect your hobbies and friends while on your dating journey and limit the time you spend on dating sites and apps. Do be proactive about dating, just keep it in moderation.
- Check out what’s happening locally. Each area will have different opportunities. Keep an eye out for singles nights and fun things to do that encourage socialising with singles.
- It’s not all about looks. Physical attraction is important, but it’s not always instant. If you get on well, give it time before giving up.
- Be honest with yourself. Some people see themselves as flawless and so can’t quite find anyone to match up to their own sense of near perfection. A bit of self-reflection and self-knowledge will help you understand and identify your matches. And it’ll prove useful once you’re in a relationship too.
- Don’t do yourself down. The opposite end of this spectrum is those who lack confidence and feel they’re not good enough. Find people and activities who help boost your confidence and use a few mantras to remind yourself that you are most definitely ‘worth it’.
- Work out what you want and need in a relationship. These are not necessarily the same thing and needs should come before wants. This will help guide you to suitable suitors.
- Get out of your comfort zone. The old adage ‘do one thing every day that scares you’ is useful here. We’re not talking about taking ill-advised risks. Try booking onto an event or going on a blind date set up by friends, despite your feelings of nerves and shyness.
Life lessons about relationships
Waiting around for a fairytale can be a bad move. Some couples do have charming backstories, but it’s important to be realistic in your expectations. A diet of kooky TV shows and rom coms can warp our ideas about what a relationship looks like and that can prevent us from getting the genuine article.
Life doesn’t always unfold in the ways we hope or imagine, but when we let go of those things, we open ourselves up to many more possibilities – and that is the really exciting part.
Most people are well-intentioned, but it pays to be smart in love nevertheless. Look out for these red flags in the early stages and you’ll avoid unnecessary drama and hassle in your love life.
Lessons in love quotes
So what do other people say about love or wish they’d known sooner. Let’s see what some famous names have to say on the subject.
“Love recognises no barriers”
“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”
“If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.”
“To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return.”
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because the reality is finally better than your dreams.”
“Love is the flower; you’ve got to let it grow.”
“Love is an endless act of forgiveness.”
“First and foremost, self-love, and then give love away.”
“The smile is the beginning of love.”
Sex and the City
“Some love stories aren’t epic novels. Some are short stories, but that doesn’t make them any less filled with love.”
“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.”
“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”
A major strategy for finding love is getting ‘out there’. And having fun is a really important part of dating – if it becomes a chore you’re likely to lose momentum and interest. Book a place at an event with the UK’s favourite speed dating company and your fortunes may change where love is concerned. This is a fantastic way to meet people in a structured and safe environment. You have a high chance of matching with someone on the night – and you may even match with several attendees.
- Can love be taught or learned?
Yes and no. Falling in love is a mixture of instinct and unconscious choice – we are unintentionally biased toward certain looks and types of people based on our formative experiences and genetics. But we can also learn much about how to attract – and keep – a mate too.
- How do you stand out in speed dating?
There are three key areas (over which you have full control) that can help you shine: your clothing choices, the questions you ask and your body language. Check out our Slow Dating blog for specific advice on all three topics.